We know what it means when girls tell us that they only want to be friends. Or do we? Let’s suppose she wants to befriend you on a social media network site? Depending on the site, it might mean less than we think. Conversely, if she chooses not to befriend you, then it might mean more than we think.
Kiss chase for adults. The reaching out of the hand of friendship by you via social networking can be mistaken as electronic manhandling, finding your innocent gesture giving the impression of you being a resident of stalker town. As a result when it comes to friend requests, it is often best to sit back, and do the waiting.
The question of whether “she friends me, she friends me not,” burdens many guys. It really shouldn’t. She friends me, means that she is on a varying scale of endearment towards you, somewhere between being polite and infatuated. She friends me not, and her feelings could range from indifference to total repugnance.
However one will never know unless the question is directly posed, a most decent proposal.
Double standards are the way of the world, the ways of women are easy enough to understand though, there is rarely a double meaning. She friends you, and she is most likely rather interested indeed.
Getting yourself active on social media networking sites and apps will ensure that many “she’s” will befriend you. The ones that friend you, are the ones that are most important. She friends me not, just ,means move on, simple as. She friends me is moving in. She friends me not is moving on. So she makes a friend request ’move’ your way. What do you do now?
The number one rule of online dating applies here. Leave her hanging. That simple press of the accept button should be taken as a public works pothole filler does his day’s work, take time out for pondering. Fold your arms, and have a cup of tea, a second for her is a tugging on her confidence, dating is a competition, and the wait will break her.
Turn the tide, make her wait it out, and her dependence increases. After the third cuppa, refill her dashing dreams of your acceptance right back. Of course this is just pixelated pleasure, the emotions are real though, so connected we now are to the social element of networking. Our souls are in our profile, our hearts are filled with malware and tare.
Rule number two. Talk. Yeah pics ’n’ profiles do only half the work. The newly acquired girl friend may have met you in passing, “to be or not to be a girlfriend,” is up to your next move.
The fear will be in her now, because of your delay, that you aren’t into her. Whether you are into her or not, its time to play. Contacts beget contacts, as you see from your burgeoning friend list, converting these lady contacts into lady loves in waiting opens up the friend zone.
Fact 1. Good looking girls have bad looking friends, it makes them appear and feel better about themselves. Fact 2. You showing an interest in their bad looking friends drives them insane, and fosters interest in you as a result.
Fact 3.Good looking girls aren’t as hard to get as it seems, just play the game. Play women as they have played men, an eye for eye. Talking via Facebook Chat is nice and easy, no one knows how fast you type, and the time you take in posting your well planned out words is at your discretion. When you see that green light (she is online) just go for it. They love questions. Fact, 3. Girls love to talk about themselves.
She is into you, so a few pretty sub standard jokes will have her splitting. Fact 4. Guys appear funnier to women when the woman is interested.
As much as we play the game, and try to keep the ball in their courtship, it still falls down to the guy to arange the time and place. A club is a good spot, she‘ll have her friends with her. She will be all dolled up too. Who knows? She may be prettier than a picture, or suitably fit so your mates won’t call you up on having low standards, and thats all that is important. Isn’t it?
Nicholas Jackman loves writing about online dating and social media. Follow Nicholas on Twitter here.